Your Premature Baby and Child
An Interview with Amy Tracy, co-author
Interview by Allison Martin
Amy E. Tracy is the coauthor of Your
Premature Baby and Child : Helpful Answers and Advice for Parents.
She is also a frequent contributor to national parenting magazines, including
American Baby, Moms on Call, and Twins. After her first son was born prematurely,
she founded a support group and newsletter for preemie parents. The American
Institute for Public Service recognized Amyís efforts. A graduate of Syracuse
University with bachelors in English and magazine journalism, Amy lives
in Colorado Springs, Colorado with her husband, George, and their two
boys, Daniel, 9, and Steven, 6.
What enticed you to write "Your Premature Baby and Child"?
When my first son, Daniel, was born three months early, I quickly became frustrated by the lack of information on the bookshelves for parents of preterm babies. Following his homecoming, I had even more questions (and found few answers) about how to care for my fragile baby who was on oxygen, an apnea monitor, and medications. It was incredibly frightening!
On top of this fear was incredible loneliness. Most of my family, friends and coworkers didnít understand my babyís (and my!) needs. We also couldnít just go out and do the things full-term parents do because of Danielís health.
I wrote "Your Premature Baby and Child" (with a neonatal nurse
and two doctors) to help families experiencing the same crisis my family
did. Itís the book I wish Iíd had during my sonís early years. It offers
medical information and parenting guidance, but also the support and comfort
that is greatly needed when caring for a preemie.
Being a mother to my two sons brings me so much joy Ė- seeing them learn and grow everyday, being loved and giving love unconditionally, simply enjoying our familyís closeness. Sure, there are bad days (like yesterday when my six-year-old brought his bug box full of ants into the house and it broke!), but I still think motherhood is a great job.
Becoming a mom also helped me realize my goal of freelance writing. I never would have quit my editing job at a big legal publisher if I didnít think Daniel, then Steven, needed me at home. When they were small, I used to write in between naptimes, at McDonald playgrounds, while waiting at the doctorís office. Now that theyíre in school, itís much easier. I also think itís great that my kids grew up watching their mom work so hard to achieve a dream; itís a valuable lesson.
What is your next book about?
Motherhood inspired the next one, too, or maybe I should say pregnancy did. Iím now writing "Your High-Risk Pregnancy and Bedrest Guide", with the assistance of a well-known perinatologist. I had three complicated pregnancies, and Iíve wanted to write this book for over ten years.
Is there any advice youíd like to offer to new parents of preemies?
Yes! Empower yourself with information! Learn all you can about your baby by asking questions, by reading everything you can find, by searching on the Internet. Donít focus on all the things that could go "wrong" during hospitalization, but rather learn about your babyís unique needs and concerns. The more you know about your baby, the better prepared youíll be to care for him or her.
Also, surround yourself with lots of support. Help can come from family and friends, other preemie parents, an on-line support group, a nurse or social worker, a clergy member. Support can be especially valuable following homecoming.
Finally, donít forget to simply experience being a new mom or dad. All the care giving your baby requires, both in the hospital and at home, is time consuming and exhausting. Try to spend some time every day enjoying your baby -- you both deserve it.
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